"Dear Edie, I've noticed that you mention God quite a few times and some Church activity, so I have a question for you: I am 18, an active member at my Church, AWANA leader, Sunday school teacher, a helper in the youth group, and the list goes on. My situation is, is that I have gotten a lot of negative feed back because if my love of dance. Along with a couple other persons, I was kicked out of a temporary singing group because one of the rules was absolutely no dancing. Something very impossible for me. I do use my talents of dancing for God. I have done a lot of dance interpretation for church and related activities. But I also have a great passion for dancing, most importantly for Salsa. I feel great when I dance, I feel happy, I have even started to lose weight since I started to take Salsa lessons. Salsa es parte de mi, mi cultura, mi sangre. I just wanted to know if you have been through similar situations and what you think about it. If you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it!" Dear Believer, Little do they realize that dancing is OK, and even mentioned in the Bible:
Back to your question. I'll take the liberty of assuming to believe that it's not just dancing, it's Salsa dancing, they're having the problem with, right? If so, let's step back minute. I want you to think of life as empty with no meaning. Now put Salsa in there, and attach a meaning of "sex" to it. There you have it. I'm just as guilty as anyone. When I created the Salsa-Holics Anonymous Graph back in 1997, I attached the meaning of "sex" to "Salsa" for the whole world to see. For me, being recently divorced (Yes, I know, God hates divorce, but He also hates infidelity...), I got into Salsa dancing as a way to socialize, get my aerobics in, release my frustrations from work and at home, and take my mind off things for a while. If you attach a meaning of sex to Salsa, of course everyone will start shaking in their pews! That's why in my videos, and during my classes, I teach my students to keep Salsa clean. We need to work on redefining the meaning we attach to Salsa, and dance in general. I find it interesting they don't attach the word sex to Waltz, Fox Trot, Swing, Hustle or Polka. Any type of dancing in general is a release that most find very satisfying and fulfilling. It helps release the natural endorphins that our bodies produce during any type of physical exertion. Dancing rigorously (like we do in Salsa) releases those natural endorphins, resulting in a dancer's high very similar to an exercise high. Lately Salsa dancing is getting more and more physically demanding. The styles are changing to more fast-paced with more turns and spins, lifts, tricks, and dips. Salsa dancing can be a phenomenal aerobic workout now. Many take Salsa aerobics classes, and regular shines classes just to lose weight. If I may quote Mr. Eddie Torres, the Mambo King himself from New York, when I asked him how he lost all his weight, his answer was simple, "I started taking my own classes." Salsa is very, very aerobic. Like a contact sport, we huff and puff, get all bruised up, and keep coming back for more. It gives us a physical "high", like biking, lifting weights, running, or training for a marathon. Being a former marathon runner, bodybuilder, and gymnast, myself, I am all too familiar with the "runners high", the "pump" from a great lift, and the "charge" of an incredible floor or bar routine. They are all the result of healthy physical exertion. So is Salsa. (And oh, by the way, so is sex. Sex is a very healthy, physical exertion, given to mankind as a beautiful gift from God, blessed only to married couples.) It's very sad that people associate Salsa with sex. That's the problem. It's the association, and the meaning that they've given it. It's sad that they haven't associated Salsa with weight loss, aerobics, fun, skill, and art. To become good at dancing Salsa, takes a very long time, a lot of practice, skill, and dedication. Once people understand the amount of work it takes, they would appreciate it for its art form, the form of dance itself. Even King David danced in Biblical times. I've written a brief description of my thoughts on the whole subject of dancing and scripture. There, you'll find many places in the Bible of where dance is referenced and acknowledged as from God. God the creator of all things, created man. My advice to you, is to find another church where they don't mind if you're a dancer or not. You also may just want to "not tell" them about your dance life if it causes any of them to stumble. I wouldn't make a big deal about it to anyone. Keep to yourself. Stay humble, quiet, and bite your lip at church. Then let it ALL OUT on the dance floor that night. For me, dance is a GREAT substitute for sex - but then again, so are aerobics classes in the mornings, daily jogs, and bike rides along the beach. All of these high-intensity, aerobic activities help me keep my mind off men, and physically exert me to the point of where I'm not at all interested in sex. Sometimes I get so physically wiped out, that even the thought of sex repulses me. To tell you the truth, Salsa has kept me in line, sexually. That's not the only reason why I dance however. Dancing also gives me a tremendous amount of joy, an acquired skill that has taken a long time to develop, a great social life, friends all over the world, a modest income, and the ability to express myself in a way that I can't at the office or at church. Taking up Salsa dancing also helped three of my friends stop drinking and doing drugs. How can you do all these spins, lifts, dips, and marathon dance session when you're wasted? I have many friends who have actually kicked their alcohol and drug problems when they started dancing Salsa. I know about ten people in LA who have also QUIT SMOKING because they don't allow smoking in the clubs in LA, and many Salseros who are athletes during the day CAN'T STAND smoker-breath. So, Salsa has helped people with their drinking, smoking, and drug problems, and it's helped me keep my mind off sex. Wow. AND WE'RE COMPLETELY SATISFIED. God's speed to you luv. I'll be praying for you. |